The whole goddamn world is on fire.

And I don’t want to talk about it.

Today I have squishy feelings because it was nine years ago that I went on a date with a boy I met on the internet. We sat in a Caribou halfway between our respective homes and talked for eight hours. The weather was snow-raining and gray and cold, which is exactly what is happening outside my window right now.

Nine years of my life with this guy.

I say it every time, but it feels like yesterday and a lifetime ago.

We don’t actually celebrate our dating anniversary since we got married, but it’s hard not to at least acknowledge it.

I met him at my absolute lowest point.

He saved my life.

There’s no other way to put it.

Here is a picture of Emerson Mouse hanging from my hair.

This is a highly accurate representation of the goofy-ass things my Robert will do to make me laugh on a daily basis. And especially when it feels like the world is caving in on itself.

I love him.




The Seven Year Itch…

Seven years ago I married a boy I met on the internet.

Statistically, we should be seeing a decline in our relationship at this point. The Seven Year Itch is something that actually happens according to research.

I’d say for us, the longer we’re together, the better we get.

Does that make us special?


Not really.

Plenty of people survive statistics.

My parents have been married for fifty years.

It’s not always rainbows and giggles and arguments with stuffed animals. We have ugly conversations and disagreements. We get stressed and irritated and snappy. But we communicate—even when it sucks—and we tend to talk everything to death. Things are far from perfect, but we’re US.

And I love US.

I can be my whole, awkward, weird, inane, obsessive self, and he tells me he loves me for all of it.

He is my sanity and my saving grace.

I love him more than I ever thought possible to love another human being, and I love him more every day.

I always have these elaborate plans in my head for commemorating our anniversary in writing, but really, simplicity works better.

Seven years.

And not the least bit itchy.

Seventy-six days…

I was rifling through some old files recently, falling into a rabbit hole of bad web design and a whole lot of writing notes for stories long forgotten, and I found a blog post. I have no idea if it was ever actually posted. It would have been on my Live Journal, but I’m too lazy (and frankly, too avoiding-bad-memories) to go through and look for it.

It’s nothing terribly ground breaking. It’s just a lengthy ramble about being with Bob, moving in together, and how unfathomable it was that everything was falling into place so easily and so fast. I had just [recently] moved in and I had yet to get fired from the Toxic Shit Hole. It’s a lot of waxing on about how awesome he is and how much I love him and how happy he makes me and…pretty much everything I still wax on about now.

But what caught my attention was the end of the post…

I did some math the other day…I’m nuts, I know…

Since the day we met, we have spent every single weekend together.

From November 18, 2007 to February 1, 2008 is 76 days.

Of those 76 days, we have spent 57 days together. (including the days when it was only a few hours coming or going)

That makes 19 days apart. And those all involved lengthy phone conversations.

This is how we’ve grown so close so fast. This is why nothing feels rushed.

I made my “official” move in with him on our 2 month anniversary. (Give or take a day or two.) From the day I moved in we have spent exactly one night apart.

It’s been seven years.

According to an internet calculator that’s 2,558 days since our first date.

2,497 days of living together.

1,887 days of marriage.

And we’re still the same clingy koala bears we were on day one.

Who knew?

The Bobs … December 2, 2007


In September 2007, if you’d told me in two months I’d meet the love of my life and in two years I’d be married to him, I would have written you off as bat-shit crazy.

Oh ye of little faith.

It’s been five years since Bob and I got married.

In a lot of ways I feel like I’ve known him forever.

In others, HOLY CHRISTMAS how has it been five years already? (Seven together come November.)

There are still days when I look around and think, “Holy crap, I’m married. How the hell did that happen?”

I love my Robert with all my heart.

He is my sanity and my saving grace and even on my worst days he makes me so unbelievably, inexplicably happy.


Bob and I don’t have many pictures of the two of us together (aside from our wedding pictures). As often as I dink around with my camera, I just don’t think to take any of us.

Six years ago was our first date. It feels like a lifetime ago, but at the same time, it’s gone by in a flash.

Six years ago our primary concern was when we could see each other again. (EVERY WEEKEND) Yesterday we were discussing the appointment to get my car fixed, planning new tires for Bob’s car, and when we should bite the bullet and finally buy that upright freezer we’ve been waffling on for months.


It is good.

December 2007 … our first Christmas vacation together.

September 2012 … magical Red Rocks.

More than I even understand…

We’ve been over my deep-rooted emotional attachment to music.

Countless times.

With little fanfare, Andy Grammer released a new single today.

I’ll admit it…

I fucking cried.

(Just a little bit.)

I kind of wish I was kidding.

And then I paid attention to the lyrics and further cemented AG’s high-ranking place on my list of very favorite music makers.

I was listening to this when Bob got home from work. He took one look at me…and my ridiculously giddy grin…and asked if I was listening to new music.

“See? Relentlessly stalking him on Twitter pays off!”

I fucking love him.

Bob, I mean.

(And Andy too…)

(But not nearly as much as Bob.)

What are you doing for the rest of your life?

I always feel the need to commemorate anniversaries with essays waxing poetic about years gone by. Then I start writing and it takes off in an entirely different direction that I never intended and I end up scrapping the whole thing.

Three years ago today Bob and I got married.

He is my best friend.

He is my saving grace.

I love him more than I ever thought it was possible to love another human being.

Every single day I am with him, I feel so unfathomably lucky to have him.

Tonight we are 950 miles from home.

My ridiculously fantastic husband is indulging my crazy and we are in Denver because I had a completely insane notion that I needed to see Train (and Andy Grammer—let’s not pretend this wasn’t the deciding factor here) in concert when they played on our anniversary.

I couldn’t bring myself to brave the State Fair on Labor Day last year when they were here, but apparently I can drive 900-some miles to see them in another state with little hesitation.

Or maybe I have finally, officially cracked.

I’ll let you know when we get home.